Is Collaborative Divorce Faster than Traditional Divorce Litigation?

Is Collaborative Divorce Faster than Traditional Divorce Litigation? 1

The Statistics say YES!  Litigated divorces can take years.  The average length of a case in my office is 7 months.  Here’s why: 1.We Stay Out of The Courtroom:    We are not controlled by the court’s schedule, delay, adjournments, repeated extensions, continuances and backlog (sound stressful? it is!)  Collaborative Divorce allows the parties to schedule … Read more

Benefits of Prenuptial Agreements

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Prenuptial Agreements, often seen as a delicate subject,  offer numerous benefits, fostering open communication and financial transparency in a relationship. Here are some advantages worth considering: 1.  Prenuptial Agreements establish clear expectations regarding finances, assets, and debts, minimizing conflicts and misunderstandings in the future. This clarity can be especially crucial in second marriages or when … Read more

FIND SOMEONE ELSE’S COUCH TO CRY ON

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Divorce affects every aspect of a person’s life—the things that we hold most dear to us:  family, financial security, and expectations and dreams about our future.  All that is tossed around and disassembled during divorce.  How do you stay on course when everything you know, depended on, relied on and loved, is in flux?   How … Read more

Divorces Are Like Snowflakes, No Two Are Alike

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When surgeons prepare for procedures, they will inevitably have on hand different instruments depending upon the patient’s diagnosis, the specific procedure being done, the patient’s physical condition, the goals of the surgery and the prognosis.  Like surgeons preparing for a thoroughly diagnosed procedure, as divorce attorneys, we too, must be prepared  and armed with different … Read more

Is A “Collaborative Divorce” Right for You?

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As a divorce attorney who has litigated, settled, mediated, and facilitated hundreds of divorces, I am very passionate about collaborative divorce (also known by me as private divorce).  Here’s why: Collaborative divorce won’t change the fact that divorce is hard. During the collaborative divorce process, we don’t sit around a conference table, join hands, and magically … Read more

Another Tool in Your Toolbox

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When surgeons prepare for procedures, they will inevitably have different instruments on hand depending upon: each patient’s diagnosis, the specific procedure being done, the patient’s physical condition, and the goals of the surgery and the prognosis. Like surgeons preparing for a difficult procedure, as divorce attorneys, we too must be prepared and armed with different … Read more

Top 10 Ways To Get Control Of Your Divorce

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I live by the adage, control what you can and leave the rest. It’s taken me decades to get to this point and it was only after coming to the realization that I was wasting so much of my time and energy trying to change, reshape and coax things and people I actually had no … Read more

So, You’re Thinking About Divorce?

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Making the decision to get divorced takes courage and strength. And, if you want to have some control over your divorce and your post-divorce life, it also takes vision. Vision to come up with a picture of what you want your life to look like post-divorce—what are your goals, your aspirations, and your priorities surrounding … Read more

Avoid This All Too Common Divorce Mistake

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Divorce affects every aspect of a person’s life—the things that we hold most dear to us: family, financial security, expectations, and dreams about our future. All that is tossed around and disassembled during divorce. How do you stay on course when everything you know, depended on, relied on and loved, is in flux? How do … Read more

Love Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other

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I recently mediated a contentious, ongoing custody case.  As the mediator, I had the benefit of looking at the case through the lens of an impartial facilitator and what I witnessed was very sad and also, far too common: Two parents whose hatred and disdain for each other was deep and intense AND whose mutual … Read more